Raising Pure Daughters in a Generation of Darkness--Notes from session by Sarah Mally

These are the notes from one of my favorite sessions at a conference we went to about a week and a half ago. I read through the notes and I think they make sense, but it could just be because I was there and heard the talk. If you don't know what I meant by something in my notes, feel free to post a comment and ask. :)

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Purity makes people curious. As young ladies, we can demonstrate the purity of Jesus to the world. God’s word has the answer to everything we have questions for.

Tips for Parents and Daughters:

1. Give her a vision for the very best marriage

Marriage is a beautiful creation of God

Don’t think about right here, right now

Two kinds of purity

Innocent

Cleansed

2. Explain the Dangers of the Dating System

One main reason for unbalanced relationships is dating

            Dating starts out recreationally, but it’s emotional and bonds form very quickly.

World’s Way (dating)

Temporary

Now

To get

Pleasure

Human thinking

Culture

Pain of separation

Flesh

Preparation for divorce

God’s Way (courtship)

Permanent

Future

To give

Commitment

God’s Word

Bible

No separation

Holy Spirit driven

Preparation for marriage

3. How easily a heart can be stolen.

     Guard your heart.

4. Help your daughter know how to handle a crush

     Don’t panic about it

     Talk to parents

     Springboard approach

     Memorize Scripture

     Take thoughts captive

     Fill the mind with truth

     Wait on the Lord

5. Teach her what it means to guard her heart

     Avoid situations that breed emotional thoughts

     Don’t seek attention for yourselves

     Help young men grow in the Lord. Be more concerned in their spiritual walk than what they think of you.

     Be a Proverbs 31 woman

6. Replace enemy lies with truth

     Lies the enemy feeds girls:

You need to experience the real world

You’re too sheltered

You know better than your parents

There are no godly guys left

Everyone does it

How are you ever going to meet someone?

You’re old enough to make your own decisions.

You should tolerate evil.

7. Leading her to make personal commitments and decisions

     A young lady’s personal commitment to Jesus Christ

     Send young men to their father

     Marry only a Christian

     Keep no secrets from parents

     Save physical affection for marriage

     It’s not just about trying to avoid the worst. We’re waiting for the best that God has for us.

8. Lead others in the example of purity.

     Be radiant in your purity!

9. Give your heart to your parents.

Teach young ladies to have a life purpose bigger than marriage.

10. Delight in the Lord

     The earthly relationship between a husband and wife is only a picture of our relationship with Jesus Christ.

Blessings in Disguise

One wouldn’t think that we’d call our trip down to South Carolina a good one. We left around 9 AM and drove on without any complications until lunch time.

“Pam, let’s take the kids to the park and then you can go get some lunch. Kelly could go with you,” Dad said.

Mom nodded her head and started to look at the GPS, trying to figure out where it was taking us. She had set it to take us to Subway first, but something messed up and set it so we were going to the park. We wouldn’t know until later what a blessing it was.

“It’s right there Jason!” Mom yelled as she frantically pointed to the driveway.

Turning into the driveway, the kids started to bounce in their seats. We’d been in the car at least three hours by this point, so it was a welcome break for them. Our neighbors, the Kauffman’s, were also traveling with us, so they came with us for lunch and their kids played. After getting the kids settled at the park, Mrs. Kauffman, Mom and I left for the Subway we had seen at the TA station, which also happened to be a huge truck stop.  We accidentally turned into the driveway for trucks first, so that was a little awkward getting out, but we figured it out. Mom and Mrs. Kauffman went inside and left me sitting in the car. I pulled out the camera and started videoing the traffic going by while making funny comments about it.

Suddenly, the battery died. The radio had been playing and just shut off. The gauges weren’t working anymore and everything in the car started beeping at once (okay…maybe not EVERYTHING. Sure seemed like it though). The moms came back out with the food and I told Mom what had happened. The first thing she did, to my surprise, was turn off the van.

“I shouldn’t have done that,” she said.

Out came the cellphones and the calls to the knights in shining armor started. I stood out in the middle of a parking space, playing the part of a damsel in distress I suppose. Before long, Mr. Kauffman showed up and started to jump our van. He left the cables on for several minutes, but it wouldn’t start. Finally, it got enough of a charge to get it back to the park. We drove about 2 miles to the park and as soon as we parked, it died again. This is when we knew it wasn’t the battery.  No…it was the alternator.

We ate lunch and the kids continued to play. Dad and Mr. Kauffman replaced the battery in the car (or jumped it…I’m not sure which) enough so that we could drive it to an ACE hardware store. We got there and they started to replace the alternator. The kids and moms went to the ice cream place next door. It must have been surprising to see so many kids on a school day, so the lady thought we were a day care group. Laughing, Mom explained to her that we were just two homeschool families.

The knights in shining armor got the car fixed in about 45 minutes so as I’m writing this, we’re on the road again.

Blessing 1: The kids were at a park, instead of a grungy truck stop, when the battery died.

Blessing 2: The kids were at a park when it became obvious the alternator died.

Blessing 3: We went to get ice cream while the knights in shining armor fixed the van.

New Blog!!

Two friends and I are going to be sewing stuff over the summer and then blogging about our progress. Here is a link to our blog, Summer Seamstresses.If you would like to join us, feel free to shoot me an email at princess00kacia@gmail.com.