The other day, a friend of mine made this comment, "Boys are
just all stupid!". While I tend to agree with her on most other things,
this comment somewhat concerned me. So, I decided to do what any writer does and write a bit of a rant about it.
Feminism is so
prominent in our culture now. Women are now saying that they can do just the
same things as men and that men are dumb animals. Instead of letting a man be a
man, he's now belittled and sometimes teased or not taken seriously when he
does something manly. By acting this way toward a man, women are discouraging
him from stepping up and taking the lead!
Eric Ludy says in
his co-authored book 'When God Writes Your Love Story', "when a woman says
something to a man, it stays with him forever and can change him."
Ladies, we not
realize it, but our words have SO much power. If all we ever say to our
brothers or fathers or male friends is, "Oh you're just a guy, you're so
dumb," they'll act like it. Nothing else is expected of them but to be a
big meathead, so why on earth would they strive to do anything better?
However, on the
flip side, your words can be used for encouragement and so much good! Thank a
guy when he opens a door for you and he'll feel more motivated to do it again.
Encourage your brother when you see him step up and take the lead and he will
want to do it again to impress you. The comment of a woman stays with a guy
forever, whether it be good or bad. Pick your words carefully and use them to
help, and not harm, our brothers in Christ.
We're called to be
encouraging to each other and this applies not only to our brothers and
fathers, but also the guys around us--our brothers in Christ. So ladies, next
time you're tempted to point out something that's annoying and condescending to
a guy, rethink it and consider what effect it will have on him. Instead,
encourage him towards Godly manhood.
Let no corrupting talk come from out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.--Ephesians 4:29
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